To Love A (Wo)Man

It’s a humbling experience to return to a blog after nearly a month and see that the stats are still quite high. I almost cannot fathom that so many days have passed in silence, here, and yet, people still visit and read. In many ways, I’m still speechless, because of what has happened to me while I’ve been away, because of what is still happening to me on my journey.

I’ve taken a break from most of my regular activities. I stopped holding meetings at church. I didn’t attend my life group last time around. I skipped church Council meetings to stay home with my children. I haven’t written much of anything in the last four weeks. I haven’t read much in the last month. I haven’t commented, haven’t logged into Twitter, haven’t passed along many blog posts. I’ve been on a break.

And you know what I found in the silence? in the stillness? in my swing?

I found love.

There’s no big announcement there. I’m not getting married or anything. I’m talking about the love of friends and family and kids and regular readers.

I’ve found that love isn’t some grand romantic gesture but a card in the mail on the day you want to give up.

Love is the friend who humors you with another round of online Scrabble at 2 am, because you need to keep talking to someone.

Love makes you dinner and draws you pictures in crayon (Thanks, Sara!)

Love wakes up early, drags a stool into the kitchen, and pours you a cup of chocolate milk (Thanks, Mia!)

Love gives you big squeezy hugs until you think your head will pop off (Thanks, Wendy!)

Love chases you around the house, and when you’re caught, demands to be tickled (Thanks, Matt!)

Love is the honest assessment of mistakes you’ve made and the just-as-honest assurance that you can meet your goals and achieve yours dreams.

Love brings sandwiches to the homeless, groceries to the elderly, goes door-to-door and makes quilts for people affected by disaster and poverty.

Love shows up to teach students who are eager and those who can’t wait to leave.

Love plans ahead and love is spontaneous.

Love is green in the mail when you are staring at an empty bank account and your kids are in need of school supplies.

I’ve been blessed to have the best friends and family in the world, who know just how to love a (wo)man. I’ve been blessed to have each of those forms of love visit me in the past month, like the ghosts of Christmas past, present and future, to show me a better way.

I just want to say Thank You. Thank you for reading. Thank you for sticking with me. Thank you for Tweeting and FB messaging. Thank you for cards and calls and prayers and cares and thank you for the love.

How has someone loved you recently?



27 responses to “To Love A (Wo)Man

  1. I lost my job about a week and a half ago. It has been very encouraging to have others rallying around me and offering help however they can. That’s love.

    • These are the things I feel bad about missing. I will be praying for you that you find your dream job soon.

    • That happened to me back in 2008 and I saw the same thing happen. I still haven’t found a job that is enough to pay my bills (just PT making a little over minimum wage and no unemployment benefits anymore). It was rough, but through it I saw God provide in ways I could never have imagined. Praying for you and that you are able to find new employment soon!

  2. I was wondering where you disappeared to! I’m glad you were able to take that much-needed break and experience love in such amazing ways!

    • thanks, Jason. I’m going to slow start adding back the amount of work I put into the blog. It’s just too overwhelming to read, comment, write, respond and tweet right now. Is that weird? I have missed my favorite bloggers, though. Hope all is well with you.

      • Oh, I do know that feeling. It’s why I dropped down to posting only three times a week. I couldn’t keep up with writing, reading other blogs, tweeting…all that. I’m trying to find the rhythm that works for me. Smart move in coming back slowly. Just do whatever works for you!

      • I’m hoping to work back up to three times a week. Eeek!

  3. I’m glad you’re feeling loved. So you know, you have been (are) missed around here. I was just talking about you to Katie the other day. She thinks of you a lot. You’re kinda special to us…just a little. 🙂

  4. I’ve missed you and your words, Kristin! I mean, we’ll always have FB but it’s just not the same. You showed me love by bringing the Daguerrotype Boyfriend into my life. And my friend Rachel is running at my slow snail pace as I’ve started Couch to 5K because she knows I need motivation and accountability.

  5. I love this posting! I even got a lump in my throat. I love your writing, Kristin. Welcome back.

  6. So glad you’re back, Kristin. I have missed your words.

    Love showed up recently when I called a friend to apologize and before I could even begin she said, “let’s forget about it.” No guilt trip. No explanations. No apologies. Just pure, complete forgiveness. and lots of love.

  7. Glad to have you back, Kristin! You have been missed!

    Love showed up for me last week when a couple of my friends came to my house and edged my yard while I was at work. It was one of the odder expressions of love I’ve seen, but still very much appreciated. 🙂

  8. Love sounded a lot like my kids’ laughter earlier tonight. So good.

  9. I’m glad you’re still here. I understand about needing a break. I’ve been kind of back and forth myself lately. Posting too much, and then nothing for weeks. Probably not the best way to keep any readers. 🙂

  10. She liveth!!!!

    Welcome back Kristin. I missed you. Missing the green in my life.

    Love is the greatest of all gifts and is what we need the most. It’s what I seek, what I rejoice in, what I strive to give. Of course love is not what is said, but what is done. I’m loved because people call, text, email, hug, kiss and make love. Oh my!

  11. Love is when I come home and i’m nearly knocked down by the rush of hugs from a 3year old boy and a 5 year old girl…

    Love is good…

    Welcome back Kristin….

  12. Sorry I missed this post the first time (during my non-blog reading phase), but glad I found it via Larry.

    I am amazed at the love around me, especially when I’m able to admit I’m vulnerable.

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