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Advice against the advice

Today, I inch toward infamy, er, famosity, no, dang, I don’t know where I rank on the famous scale, but I am busting out of the format I’ve created here on Messiah Mom to guest post for my good buddy, Knox McCoy.

A few weeks ago, he wrote a piece about the wealth of knowledge in Men’s Health Magazine, and I thought it was ridiculously funny and well-researched, so, of course, I thought, I can write one better. 😉

That led to this: Let Me Call You Prince Kissy Face, a blog post about copper lipstick, Sesame Street, cuddle grenades and worst of all – pet names for your partner.

Why haven’t you clicked on the link yet? Are you afraid Cosmo will tell you that you’re doing life all wrong? it probably will, but I still think you have cool potential.


It is for Freedom: Slaves no more

On this, the last Wednesday of March, I’m joining the #CelebrateWomen blog carnival once again, this time to talk about how we can make a positive impact on women locally and/or globally.

If I survey the stats on Child Slavery around the world, the problem appears insurmountable. It’s easy to shove my hands skyward, convinced I can’t put a dent in those numbers.

If I listen to the statistics on Sexual Exploitation of Children, trafficked on the streets and virtual highways of the US, my outlook grows more grave. What can I do against a legion of opportunistic pimps and madams and predators?

Those numbers are bleak. According to the US Dept of Justice, children are, on average, entering prostitution between 12-14 years of age. The National Center on Missing and Exploited Children found that most runaways will fall prey to exploitation within 48 hours of their hitting the streets.

The number I cannot erase from my brain is 7. That’s the average number of years a child will spend in prostitution before they die, probably from homicide or HIV/AIDS.

But I’m not here to determine what the problem is, you can see more about that problem here. I’m asking you to make a difference in the lives of these girls and women (yes, there are men and boys, too, but the overwhelming majority of sexually exploited and trafficked children are girls, according to Shared Hope International).

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery – Galatians 5:1


Here are three things you can do:

1) Prayerfully consider getting involved in an abolition group. You can do that locally, nationally and globally. My favorite group is Love146, who take a three-pronged approach to sex-based human trafficking.They can use your donations, letter-writing skills and call-center volunteers.

2) Work with at-risk groups. Of the 1-1.5 million runaway kids in this country, 1/3 will probably have some experience with prostitution. Teen hotlines, crisis centers, youth groups, junior high schools, high schools and after school programs can help keep kids in their homes and off the streets.

3) Share this link on Facebook, Tweet it, email it – pass it on. The more people who see this message, and find a way to address the problem, the closer we move to a world without slavery.

In the comments, tell me about a local group people in your area can help in order to help children/women who have experienced the lowest of human nature. How do YOU make a difference?

Writing with Sense and Sensibility

It’s a March Wednesday, which means I’m writing a post for the #CelebrateWomen blog carnival. Today, we’re all writing about a woman writer who has influenced our lives and our own writing.

I feel it’s almost cliché, as a woman, to write about how much I love Jane Austen. I haven’t just read her complete works (including juvenilia, fragments and letters), I spent one semester in a Jane Austen seminar in college and the next two semesters as a research assistant for a professor writing her magnum opus on Jane.  The author, nearly 200 years in the grave, can still inspire and teach me about what it means to BE a writer.

Jane hailed from a religious family. Her father was a minister. She had faith in the Church and loved her father dearly, but clergy in her novels ranged from Edmund Bertram – a committed man of faith, to Mr. Collins – an idiot, simpering after a rich patroness, rather than following after God.

She wasn’t a religious writer, one would hardly label her “Christian” by today’s standards. She seldom discussed theological concerns, but wasn’t much taken with evangelical fervency. “I do not like the Evangelicals,” Jane wrote to her sister in January 1809.We can only guess that the Evangelicals she knew in the rolling green-hilled town of Bath, kept her from embracing that set.

Her favorite niece wrote to dear Aunt Jane, however, when considered marrying an Evangelical, James Plumtre, in November 1814, and Jane wrote back:

And as to there being any objection from his Goodness… from the danger of his becoming even Evangelical, I cannot admit that. I am by no means convinced that we ought not all to be Evangelicals, & am at least persuaded that they who are so from Reason and Feeling, must be happiest & safest. Do not be frightened from the connection by your Brothers having most wit. Wisdom is better than Wit, & in the long run will certainly have the laugh on her side; & don’t be frightened by the idea of his acting more strictly up to the precepts of the New Testament than others.

Those, who from Reason and Feeling espouse evangelical faith are sure to be happiest. I come to my faith through reason – I see the work of His hands and the change wrought in real lives and infer a God. I have tasted and seen that God is, indeed, good. I also arrive at my faith through feeling. I have cried out to him in despair, sought him in joy, met him in comfortable silence and laughed until it hurt at the love lessons he’s taught me through my children.

As Horace Hodges points out, Reason and Feeling nicely correlate to the title of Jane’s novel, Sense and Sensibility.What I love most about Jane Austen, is that she taught me, two centuries later, to write with both Sense and Sensibility. To apply those principles of faith to what I put to paper.

Francis Bacon said that rhetoric was applying reason to imagination for the better moving of the will. Austen embodies, for me, that principle of rhetoric… and fiction. Reason and feeling, reason and imagination, sense and sensibility, in my writing and in my faith.

Who is your favorite female author? How do you apply sense and sensibility to your faith?